Years ago when I was 8 or 9 years old I was bullied by a boy three years older than me. It was a long time ago but I remember it well.
I was in a boarding school somewhere in the suburbs of Krakow, Poland, and it was just three years after the end of the WWII.
We called him Red; due to his red hair and puffy always red face and he liked to be called it.
He bullied everybody but particularly me, and I often had a big “shine” under my eye and went to bed without my supper.
Red ate my supper and then his own and sat there opposite to me across the table obviously enjoying himself.
There came a time to go the dormitory and we were on the stair case, Red right in front of me. I could see his feet dressed in somebody else’s tennis shoes and right then when we were at the top of the stairs I grabbed his feet and pulled them down with all my strength.
Red’s face hit the stairs and rumbled down leaving the red spots of blood streaming from his nose.
He never bullied me again and I got my first lesson not to give in to bullying.
Soon our ways parted and I didn’t know what happened to Red. Some years later I heard that he joined the Communist Youth organization and got knifed to death by someone in the street. He obviously bullied once too many times.
I have never been bullied again in my life, but I witnessed bullying throughout my life.
I lived in Poland under bullying system, brought to my country by even bigger bully – the USSR and I fought back.
Now, with silver hair on my head I am watching another bully, a country I live in.
I watch it bullying the smaller and weaker countries, bombing them into submission and using all its muscles to make them into US surfs, such a “mini-me”.
System, countries and individuals who bully others have strong needs for power and dominance.
Chances are that a young school bully once he grows up and achieves a certain position in society will continue bullying others.
God forbid if a bully becomes the head of the state, let’s say a president of the United States.
Then he becomes a mighty bully who can bully through social exclusion or isolation of the poor, weak and unarmed country as we have seen on the example of George W. Bush and two wars inherited now by President Barak Obama, who is bullied now by GOP because he is black.
Bully can also bully the others through lies and false rumors, claiming that the far away country is in possession of WMD weaponry which directly endangers the United States. Such a lie gives him an excuse to precede with unfunded wars that now nobody knows how to end.
Bully is usually a simpleton subconsciously knowing his inferiority and covers it up with “might is right” nonsense spread all around the country and repeated even in churches as we saw at the funeral of US soldier Cpl. Mathew Snyder , where a bully pastor Fred Waldron Phelps, Sr. together with his cronies carried posters with “Thank God for dead soldier”.
Estranged son of pastor Fred Waldron Phelps endured fear, intimidation and abuse before leaving the family and church on his 18th birthday.
He is now 51 years old. He strongly criticizes his father and explains that in his father’s mind military deaths were the work of a wrathful God who punishes the United States for tolerating homosexuality.
Bullies in their limited minds do not have a place for tolerance, love and compassion. They are driven by hate to the others, love of themselves and hunger for power.
So it is not “boys will be boys” at young age.
A young bully might grow to an adult bully with power, support and as much hate as when he was 10.